Author Archives: xodoglover8

I spent three days in the wild, in a treehouse with no running water and no one at my side. It was a test of sorts – how would I fare on my own and what thoughts would run through my mind? During the day, I hiked. At night, I read. The first book IContinue reading “Alone in my Treehouse”

What started as an arduous journey to discover my authentic self has turned into my life’s greatest and most self-fulfilling adventure! The journey began with facing some hard truths about myself that left me wondering how in the world I was supposed to be able to essentially change who I am. But it wasn’t untilContinue reading “My Authentic Self”

We all hate rejection. It makes us feel unwanted, less than, not enough. As a codependent, I’ve spent my entire life fearing rejection. I’ve even made choices – both consciously and subconsciously – in order to avoid being rejected by others. Despite that, however, my life has been a series of rejections: My mother rejectedContinue reading “Rejection: Friend or Foe?”

I have always been told that if I choose to be happy, then I will be happy. I’m not sure where I first heard it. I can’t even tell you who has said it to me, but I know I’ve been told that repeatedly. And every single time I remember thinking to myself, “it’s notContinue reading “Choose Happiness”

After exploring various definitions for the word “codependent” and different stories of how codependency has played out in people’s lives, I have no choice but to accept the truth: I am codependent. What does this mean? Basically, my codependency manifests itself as severe control issues; or as Beattie puts it, “in the ways we letContinue reading “Verdict: I Am Codependent”

This is my first blog – ever! I never imagined I would be doing this and I’m still not entirely sure what motivated me to start this blog, except that I need to do something different. My old patterns aren’t working for me, and it is time to break free of them! I’ve been marriedContinue reading “Blogging for Clarity”